From Unseen to Unstoppable: Why We Show Up for Women in Menopause
Our Journey with Me, Myself & Menopause and How Pause Live Sparked a Movement
When we stepped into Pause Live 2024, we didn’t quite know what to expect. We were just a few months into launching our free support group, Me, Myself & Menopause — two women who had met through life’s messy middle, bonded by our shared yet very different menopause journeys.
Walking into a national event filled with experts, exhibitors, and conversations that felt much bigger than us, we wondered if we were out of our depth. But from the moment we arrived, we were welcomed with open arms — not just by the event hosts but by every single exhibitor, speaker, and attendee we encountered. The room was filled with high energy, positive connection, and genuine community. It was empowering beyond words. We came with one goal: to soak up as much knowledge and inspiration as possible, so we could take it back and pour it into our group. And it delivered in ways we couldn’t have imagined.
The dual stages — education and live — offered a powerful contrast. We moved between scientific talks and raw, lived experience, and it was that blend that made everything land so deeply. We discovered products, treatments and ideas that we didn’t even know existed — innovations for symptoms like menopause-related hair loss, weight changes, and night sweats. Being able to bring that information back to our community felt like gold dust. We were blown away by so many speakers and exhibitors — from Sharin’s insightful talk to the practical brilliance of Nudie, who created an adhesive remover for HRT patches — the whole event was a revelation. It was high-vibe, energising, and deeply validating. We left feeling stronger, more seen, and more committed than ever to our mission. But to understand why that day mattered so much to us, it’s important to take a few steps back.
Beckie’s Story: Perimenopause in Real Time For me (Beckie)
Perimenopause crept in during my early forties. I was working full-time, raising a young family, and juggling life like so many women do. But under the surface, I was struggling — emotionally, physically, hormonally — and I felt completely unsupported. I didn’t know where to turn. The loneliness was overwhelming.
At home, I was surrounded by boys — a house full of males — and while they’re amazing, they didn’t understand what I was going through. I didn’t feel heard, and there were no local groups or spaces that felt right for me. That’s when I crossed paths with Amy.
Amy’s Story: Thrown Into Surgical Menopause
At the same time Beckie was navigating her invisible battle, I (Amy) was going through the most significant health challenge of my life. At 35, I was diagnosed with stage 5 endometriosis. My only option was a full hysterectomy — one that catapulted me into surgical menopause overnight. The shift was instant. It felt like someone had flicked a switch. One day, I felt like myself. The next, I was unrecognisable — physically, emotionally, mentally.
Despite my 17 years working in private mental health as a clinical director, nothing prepared me for the rawness of surgical menopause. The emotional and psychological impact was like nothing I had ever faced before. And the saddest part? The support wasn’t there. I remember the loneliness. The cost of seeking help. At a time when I was emotionally at my lowest, I was expected to pay £200 here, £300 there, for any kind of professional support. I couldn’t always afford it. And I later learned that even access to menopause support was a postcode lottery — a heartbreaking truth that still fires us up today.
The Birth of Me, Myself & Menopause Some conversations are destined. And our paths crossing when they did felt like fate. What started as two women supporting each other soon turned into something much bigger — a shared vision to create the very thing we couldn’t find: a safe, free, supportive space for women navigating every stage of menopause.
We built Me, Myself & Menopause from the heart — a space fuelled by compassion, honesty, and care. A community that would never turn anyone away. A group where women could come as they are — in the thick of it, on the edge of burnout, overwhelmed, or simply curious — and feel held. And the response has been incredible. We now run monthly free support groups, we’ve been funded by the National Lottery Community Fund, and our reach is growing every month. Women from all walks of life are finding us. And we are so proud to say we are now both certified menopause coaches, able to offer deeper one-to-one and group support.
Why Pause Live Matters So Much to Us?
Pause Live didn’t just educate us. It lifted us. It validated us. It reminded us that what we were doing mattered. We’re so excited to return to the 2025 event this October — but this time, not just as attendees. We’re bringing 16 incredible women with us, as part of a VIP experience. Women who may never have been to an event like this. Women who, like us, just want to feel seen, connected, and supported. That day will be a full-circle moment for us. A celebration of how far we’ve come — and how far we still want to go.
To You — The Reader Who Might Be Struggling Right Now
If you’re reading this and menopause feels heavy right now — maybe you're in the thick of it, maybe you're just beginning, or maybe you’re years past but still don’t feel like yourself — please know: we see you. There is light ahead. We’ve both had moments of thinking there wasn’t. We still have days where the hormones dip, where the HRT doesn’t quite hit right, where we feel off and emotional — and that’s okay.
You are allowed to feel what you feel. You are allowed to not have it all together. You are not alone in this. Reach out. Join a community. Speak your truth. You don’t have to do this in silence anymore.
With love, light, and high-vibe energy,
Amy & Beckie
Me, Myself & Menopause
